I'm just saying.....

If you're going to allow your children to make up their own minds, make their own decisions, form their own opinions, then you should respect those wished, decisions, and opinions, even if (especially if) they are different than yours.

Imposing your wishes, wants, and desires on someone against their will is control in it's most basic and most cruel form. It teaches them that no matter what they want, it doesn't matter, you're going to steam roll right over them and do whatever you want anyway.